What Would You Do?
A Deep Dive Into Ethics, Morality & Making Good Choices
- Identify the possible actions a person could take in a moral dilemma
- Predict the likely consequences (positive, negative, and mixed) of each action
- Use vocabulary like ethics, integrity, consequence, and empathy to discuss moral choices
- Consider multiple perspectives before deciding on the best course of action
A set of beliefs about what is right and wrong that guides how people should behave.
Something that happens as a result of an action or choice â it can be positive or negative.
Doing the right thing even when nobody is watching â being honest and having strong moral principles.
The ability to understand and share another person's feelings â putting yourself in someone else's shoes.
A person's point of view â the way they see and experience a situation, shaped by who they are and what they've been through.
A situation where you have to choose between two or more options, and none of them feel perfectly right.
Related to what is right and wrong â a moral person tries to do good and avoid causing harm.
Imagine you find a $20 bill on the floor at school.
Nobody is around. Nobody saw it fall. What do you do?
Before you answer â think about why you'd make that choice. What makes it the right thing to do?
Sentence starter: "I would ___ because ___"
Every single day, you make choices. Some are small â what to eat for lunch. But some are bigger â should I tell the truth? Should I help someone? Should I take something that isn't mine?
The Big Idea
Ethics is about learning to think through your choices before you act â and understanding what will probably happen as a result. It's not about being perfect. It's about being thoughtful.
Today (and over the next several days), we're going to look at real situations you might actually face. For each one, we'll think through: What could you do? What would probably happen? And what's the best choice?
A real-life situation will appear on screen. Read it carefully and think about what you would do.
We'll talk about it together. Share your ideas â there are no wrong answers during discussion.
We'll reveal possible actions you could take. Then for each action, we'll think through a guiding question and see the likely consequences.
After seeing the outcomes, we'll ask: "What do you notice?" â because the best answers come from you.
Consequence = what happens as a result of a choice (can be good or bad)
Integrity = doing the right thing even when nobody is watching
Empathy = understanding how someone else feels
Perspective = the way a person sees a situation
Dilemma = a tough choice where no option feels perfectly right
Your class is playing tag at recess. Everyone agrees on a new rule: the person who's "it" has to hop on one foot. You get tagged â now you're "it." But hopping on one foot is really hard, and everyone keeps running away easily. You can't catch anyone. You're getting frustrated.
What would you do? Talk with the class before we look at options.
Sentence starter: "If I were 'it,' I would probably ___"
Now imagine you're one of the other kids playing tag. The person who's "it" is supposed to hop on one foot â but you see them cheating and using both feet. What do you do?
Which of our vocabulary words means "doing the right thing even when nobody is watching"?
Integrity
You're playing a board game with your family. You roll a 4, but when you move your piece, you accidentally count 5 spaces â landing on a really good spot. Nobody noticed. You realize the mistake right after you let go of your piece.
You're playing a pickup basketball game at recess. One kid â let's call him Jaylen â keeps changing the rules whenever his team is losing. First he says "that didn't count," then he changes the score, then he says you stepped out of bounds when you didn't. He does this every time you play.
You're playing kickball in PE. You're running to second base, and the ball clearly misses you. But the kid on the other team yells "I got you! You're out!" â and they didn't. There's no referee. Your team looks at you to see what you'll do.
Your team is destroying the other team in a game at recess. The score is 12 to 2. Some kids on the losing team look upset. One kid says, "This is stupid, I quit." A couple others start to follow. Your teammates want to keep going and celebrate.
Across all these game scenarios, what do you notice about the outcomes?
Discuss with a partner: What is the difference between wanting to win and needing to win?
Sentence starter: "I noticed that when people chose to ___, the outcome was usually ___"
You forgot to do your math homework last night. Your best friend finished theirs and says, "Just copy mine real quick before class starts." The teacher is collecting homework in 5 minutes.
You're hanging out at your friend's house and accidentally knock a picture frame off the shelf. The glass cracks. Your friend is in the other room and didn't see it happen. You could put it back and nobody would notice until later.
Your teacher hands back a test. You got a 92%. But looking at it more carefully, you realize she marked one of your wrong answers as correct. Your real score should be 84%. Nobody else knows.
It's bedtime and you're already in bed, nice and cozy. Your grandma calls from the hallway: "Did you brush your teeth?" You didn't. Getting up means getting cold, walking to the bathroom, and losing your warm spot.
You buy a candy bar at the gas station for $1.50. You pay with a $5 bill. The cashier is distracted and gives you back $8.50 instead of $3.50. They gave you $5 too much. You're already walking toward the door when you count it.
Your friend spent all of art class on a drawing. They're really proud of it and show it to you, asking excitedly: "Do you like it?" Honestly... you don't think it's very good. But your friend looks so happy.
Is there ever a time when lying is the right thing to do? Or is honesty ALWAYS the best choice?
Something to Think About
The drawing scenario shows that honesty isn't always simple. Sometimes the most moral choice isn't "tell the truth" OR "lie" â it's finding a way to be both honest and kind at the same time. That takes practice.
During a big test, you glance over and see your best friend looking at answers they wrote on their hand. Nobody else noticed. Your friend has been struggling in this class and is terrified of failing. After the test, they whisper to you: "Please don't say anything."
Your older cousin is picking on a younger kid at the park â pushing them around and taking their ball. The younger kid looks scared. Your cousin sees you watching and says: "Don't be a snitch. We're family."
True or False: "Getting help when someone is being hurt is the same as snitching."
đ Thumbs up = True đ Thumbs down = False
FALSE. Snitching = telling on someone over nothing just to get them in trouble. Protecting someone = getting help because someone is being hurt. There's a big difference.
You're at the store with a friend. While you're looking at snacks, your friend slips a pack of gum into their pocket without paying. They wink at you and say: "It's just gum. Don't worry about it."
A friend tells the teacher they were late because they were helping the custodian. That's a lie â they were actually goofing off in the hallway. Then the teacher looks at you and asks: "Is that true? Were they helping the custodian?"
Someone in your friend group starts a mean rumor about a kid in another class. It's not true. Your friends are all laughing about it and spreading it around. One friend says to you: "Tell everyone in your next class!"
Real loyalty means caring enough about someone to be honest â even when it's uncomfortable.
A true friend doesn't ask you to lie, cheat, or look the other way when someone is being hurt.
Remember: Protecting someone â snitching. Protecting means helping when someone is being hurt. Snitching means telling on someone over nothing just to get them in trouble.
There's a really nice jacket in the school lost and found. It's been there for three weeks and nobody has claimed it. It's your size and you could really use a warm jacket. A friend says: "Nobody wants it â just take it."
A classmate has an awesome gel pen â the kind that changes colors. During class, they go to the bathroom and leave it on their desk. You pick it up to look at it. It's so cool. You could slip it into your bag and they'd probably just think they lost it.
You're at a store and see something you really want â a small toy that costs $3. You have no money. There are no cameras in this aisle and the cashier is busy with a long line. You could easily take it and walk out.
A friend gives you a really nice pair of earbuds as a birthday gift. You're pumped. But a week later, another kid at school says: "Hey, those are mine! They were stolen from my locker!" You look at your friend, and they look away nervously.
Why do you think people steal â even when they know it's wrong?
Understanding WHY people do something wrong isn't the same as saying it's okay. Talk with a partner: What are some reasons people might steal? And what could they do instead?
Sentence starter: "Someone might steal because ___, but instead they could ___"
A kid nobody really hangs out with is sitting alone at lunch â again. They look at your table where you're sitting with your friends. Your friends haven't noticed. You make eye contact with the kid. They look away quickly.
During recess, a group of kids is picking on a smaller kid â calling them names, pushing their stuff around. The smaller kid looks like they might cry. If you say something, the group might turn on you next.
It's snack time and you have two snacks today â your favorite chips and a granola bar. The kid sitting next to you doesn't have anything. They're pretending not to notice your food, but you can tell they're hungry.
Your friend group is hanging out and someone makes a joke about another kid's shoes being old and dirty. Everyone laughs. You notice the kid heard it and looked down at their shoes. You know that kid probably can't afford new shoes.
A new student joins your class. They seem nervous, don't know anyone, and at recess they stand near the wall by themselves. Some kids in your class are already whispering about them being "weird."
Being kind sometimes costs you something â time, comfort, social status. When is that cost worth it? When is it too much?
A Truth About Kindness
You can't always fix a situation. But you can always make the choice not to make it worse. And sometimes, the smallest act of kindness â a shared snack, a "come sit with us," a refusal to laugh â changes someone's whole day.
You and your friend were both throwing food in the cafeteria. A teacher walked in and caught only your friend. Your friend got lunch detention. You didn't get in trouble at all. Your friend is looking at you, waiting for you to say something.
You promised your friend you'd help them practice for the basketball tryouts after school. But then another friend invites you to come play video games at their house â the new game you've been dying to play. Basketball tryouts are tomorrow. Your friend is counting on you.
You're in a group project. One group member â let's call her Mia â did almost nothing. The presentation is tomorrow. The rest of you did all the work. Mia says: "Don't tell the teacher. I'll make it up to you guys."
You made a joke in class and everyone laughed. But later you find out that the joke accidentally hurt someone's feelings â they thought you were making fun of them, even though you didn't mean it that way. They haven't said anything to you, but their friend told you they're upset.
Why is it so hard to admit when we're wrong? What are we afraid of?
Think of a time someone apologized to you and really meant it. How did it feel? Now think of a time someone SHOULD have apologized but didn't. How did THAT feel?
Sentence starter: "Taking responsibility is hard because ___, but it matters because ___"
You're hanging out after school with a group of older kids from the neighborhood. One of them pulls out a vape and takes a hit. Then they hold it out to you and say: "Try it. It's just flavored air. Everyone does it." The other kids are watching to see what you'll do.
A kid at school comes up to you and says: "Hold this for me â the teacher's coming." They put a vape in your hand before you can respond. You're standing in the hallway holding it. If a teacher sees you with it, YOU get in trouble.
The truth: Saying "no" takes MORE strength than saying "yes." Going along with the crowd is the easy path.
Strategies:
1. Keep it simple: "Nah, I'm good." (No explanation needed.)
2. Use humor to deflect without confrontation.
3. Walk away â you don't owe anyone an explanation.
4. Set boundaries FAST: "That's not mine. I'm not holding that."
Ask yourself: If this person wouldn't be my friend unless I do this, were they really my friend?
You see a classmate slip extra food from the cafeteria into their backpack. You know this kid's family is going through a really hard time â they might not have much food at home. A teacher is about to walk by.
A friend tells you something scary â someone at their home is hurting them. They show you a bruise. Then they grab your arm and say: "You CANNOT tell anyone. Promise me. They'll take me away from my family."
Important: This is different from the other scenarios.
When someone is being physically hurt, this is not just a dilemma â it's a safety issue. Let's think through this carefully.
Someone spread a lie about you â something embarrassing and untrue. People have been giving you weird looks all day. You're hurt and angry. You happen to know something embarrassing but TRUE about the person who lied about you. You could get even.
An adult you trust and respect â maybe a coach, a relative, or a family friend â does something you know isn't right. Maybe they lied about something important. Maybe they treated someone unfairly. They're an adult. You're a kid. What can you even do?
Not every dilemma has a clean answer. Sometimes every option has a cost. How do you decide what to do when nothing feels perfectly right?
The Thinking Framework
When you face a truly hard choice, run it through these questions:
1. Empathy: How does each person involved feel?
2. Universality: What if everyone made this choice?
3. Future Self: Which choice will I be proud of tomorrow?
4. Trust: What does this do to my relationships?
5. Ripple: Who else might be affected?
đ´ Empathy: How does the other person feel?
đĩ Universality: What if everyone did this?
đŖ Future Self: Will I be proud of this tomorrow?
đĄ Trust: What does this do to my relationships?
đĸ Ripple: Who else might be affected?
You don't need all 5 every time. Even asking ONE of these questions before acting can change the outcome.
Even small choices â keeping extra change, laughing at a joke, looking the other way â create ripple effects you might not see right away.
The difference between a good choice and a bad one is usually about 5 seconds of thinking. Pause. Consider. Then act.
You don't become a person of integrity by making one big heroic choice. You build it choice by choice, day by day, in moments nobody else sees.
Ethics isn't about being perfect. It's about trying to do the right thing, owning it when you mess up, and getting better over time.
Which scenario was the hardest for you? The one where you really weren't sure what the right choice was?
Share with a partner or with the class. It's okay if you're still not sure â the point is that you're thinking.
Sentence starter: "The hardest scenario for me was ___ because ___"
In the bottom of your notebook page, write 1â2 sentences answering this question:
"What is one thing I learned about making good choices that I want to remember?"
What does integrity mean? Give an example from your own life.
Integrity = doing the right thing even when nobody is watching. Examples: returning something you found, being honest about a mistake, not cheating even when you could.
Name one of the 5 thinking lenses and explain how you would use it to make a tough choice.
Any of the 5 lenses works: Empathy (how others feel), Universality (what if everyone did this), Future Self (will I be proud tomorrow), Trust (what happens to relationships), Ripple (who else is affected)
You are the choices you make.
Not every choice will be perfect. Not every dilemma has an easy answer. But every time you stop, think, and choose with empathy and integrity, you're building the person you'll become.